Yes, exactly, and its sort of why my sister is suffering now too. She's like a lot of women who don't understand that you can't make a silk purse out of a sows ear when it comes to men. If you meet a screwed up man (and her H had it written in neon letters), your "love" isn't going to make him normal; its just going to ruin that portion of your life you devote to trying to fix him.