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    RE: Would you attend MIL's funeral?

    Yes, if my husband went. First of all, we hate being separated. But also, I'd go to offer support against FM uncle. I'll get a truly chic black dress, drop-dead but tasteful black pumps, and be ready to take DH's arm and walk out of the room when FM uncle starts to give him sh!t for "abandoning" his DM.

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    RE: Would you attend MIL's funeral?

    I would be pointing out to FM uncle that HE abandoned his sister long before dh left home to create his own family,lol.

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    RE: Would you attend MIL's funeral?

    I would only becuase its expected and becuase I am a Southern Lady. But, in the traditions of an Irish Catholic girl, I plan on drinking heavily. So I have a great big pee built up for that grave. And so I can place barbed wire on that coffin so she can't come back as a zombie.

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    RE: Would you attend MIL's funeral?

    I'd have to. Or I'd have to be on my own deathbed not to.

    Then I have to handle things because the Mensch would be paralyzed. Then I'd have to arrange for the week-long shiva craptacular. Then I'd have to clean up everything ... then ... (shudder).

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    RE: Would you attend MIL's funeral?

    I'd definitely go. I want to see her go into the ground for myself, just to make sure, you understand?

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    RE: Would you attend MIL's funeral?

    >I'd definitely go. I want to see her go into the ground for
    >myself, just to make sure, you understand?

    I didn't think of that. I may have to change my answer
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    RE: Would you attend MIL's funeral?

    Only for my husband. I would carry a can of mace to keep the rest of the creeps from trying to hug me after saying all kinds of rude stuff.

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    RE: Would you attend MIL's funeral?

    I haven't really given this much thought, but I don't think I would. DH doesn't even know if he'd go. He thinks that he probably wouldn't find out anyways, since we're in total cut-off. They don't even know where we live at this point, and I hope it stays that way.

    If he did go, I think I'd probably go with him to support him, but I also know the crappe that would be dished out against us at the same time. I'm not sure I want to expose myself to that BS. We'd take the fall for everything anyways; you can't speak ill of the dead, you know.

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    RE: Would you attend MIL's funeral?

    I would definitely go. My MIL isn't my problem (although her racism is a point I will not sit idly by on and DH won't either). And I do love her.

    For my NM, I went to her funeral and DH went with me. It was one of the saddest funerals I have went to, not so much because it was my mother, but because not one person got up when the minister asked for people to share happy stories about her. I did not cry, but I haven't cried at a funeral since I was 10 or so at my grandfather's funeral.

    I had two childhoods, one w/mom and that was filled w/horrible things that no child should have to deal with and one with my grandparents, that was filled with love. The years with my grandparents was what made me able to be a "normal" person. When my grandfather died, I was shocked and didn't start to cry until the service began. My mother told me to stop crying, I was just doing it for show, and how dare I do that at her father's funeral. I rarely ever cry now and I know I hold things in when I shouldn't. I think therapy would probably be good for me, but I've never gone.

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    RE: Would you attend MIL's funeral?

    >>For my NM, I went to her funeral and DH went with me. It was one of the saddest funerals I have went to, not so much because it was my mother, but because not one person got up when the minister asked for people to share happy stories about her.<<

    I'm a bit surprised. People (dysfunctional people anyways) seem to think that you can't say anything negative about anyone who is deceased, and usually try to remember the good times. There usually always are some of those. I would imagine that minister was a bit taken back when no one said anything about your M.

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