It is up to the Mom birthing. My husband was there but neither future grandmother was. To be fair I hit the delivery room at 6 cm and was moving quickly. Second my DM wanted to video tape my DS's birth. Ummm no nobody seeing a watermelon coming out of a straw. His DM just a nut job and I didn't want her their. I progressed so fast that it was not a problem - I had back labor. So my goal of my DM not video taping and his mom not being there was fine by me. Our family was just us 3 and my parents were fine. She began her lunacy then.