I agree with this.... those hiding the truth are really no better than the liar, especially if they're asked the question directly.I know that my perspective is different, but it comes from a place of having been cheated on. The thing that made me the angriest, and ruined friendships was that no one told me while it was happening. Believe me, if I had known, I would have left xH much sooner than I did!!. I would have loved to have that as an excuse to leave. So, when asked directly about stuff like this, I spill the beans. If the person is a good friend, I tell them without being asked. I think it is wrong to lie by omission about this sort of life changing information. It is a robbing of one's ability to make good decisions about one's life, because she only has half the information.
Obviously, the only thing I think you should do differently is tell her if she asks directly. She knows, she just needs confirmation. If FIL doesn't want to do the time, he shouldn't do the crime, and then essentially brag about it by dragging your partner, and by proxy you into it.
DISCLAIMER: All advice on this website is for informational and entertainment purposes only. All responses are from reader submissions unless specifically noted otherwise (such as Dr. Terri Apter advice page). We do not endorse any of the advice. We provide it to you as a service. We can neither guarantee the soundness of the advice, nor make any claims as to the outcome of following this advice. We provide it for your entertainment only. Should you choose to follow any of the advice, it is solely at your own risk. This is not intended to substitute for obtaining advice from appropriate sources and/or professional counseling. We recommend you consult an appropriate professional, counselor, and/or a trusted advisor before taking any action based on this advice. B A Squared, LLC and www.motherinlawstories.com make no representations or guarantees regarding any information dispensed on this site.
Copyright © 1999 - 2011, B A Squared, LLC. All rights reserved. Reproduction in whole or in part in any form or medium without express written permission of B A Squared, LLC is strictly prohibited. All materials submitted (written or otherwise) to www.motherinlawstories.com become the property of B A Squared, LLC. Submission of any material (written or otherwise) constitutes your permission for B A Squared, LLC to use, edit, reproduce and publish this material (in whole or in part) in any way it deems appropriate, and releases B A Squared, LLC from any and all liability associated with the publication of said material.