This is so sad and I have watched a woman in my office go through this situation. She married a man her mother didn't pick out and approve beforehand. He is of another race and religion. They got married in a mosque about 9 months before the other ceremony. Her father showed up for the mosque ceremony and was only family member there. They decided to have a more conventional ceremony/reception for his family many states away. Her mother tried to get all her family members to boycott the wedding and many didn't go for this reason. Her mother basically disowned her and refuses to speak to her and has said appalling things about children they may have (this girl is going to be a wonderful/loving mom!!). The wedding/reception looked like a lot of fun with very happy people, too bad her mom missed it. Now her mother has to live with her decision.