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There have been times when I've brought up things from growing up and my Mom will not remember telling me to ignore it or to stop being sensitive. She'll say "I wouldn't have said that" and I'll say "oh yes you did!" and I will go into details about the situation. I think she then remembers snippets from it once I go into details because she'll snap "whatever!" and usually leaves the room. That's when I know she remembered and she's embarrassed or mad at herself. I don't know. She has definitely noticed my change from child to adult and how now I will not put up with nonsense. Sometimes she tells me I need to "let things go" and other times I think she envies me because she's too scared to stand up for herself. She gets walked on a lot.
This is a common tactic of abusive people, it's called gaslighting.