Just saw this, so sorry to hear what you are going through. Sending caring hugs.

Your MIL is a selfish crone. Thanksgiving is not all about her. Clearly she hasnít any empathy, so setting her straight would be a waste of time and effort. I doubt anyone can get through to her.

Sheís irrelevant. Do what makes you happy, do what you want to do, how much you want to do. If travelling is too much, stay home. This year, things need to be different. Spend the holidays with the people who love you, who care about you. Make it low key and special. Donít overdo it, you need to conserve your strength. That means no Miss Poutypants, the MIL from Hades. Stay far away from her. She can sit at home in the dark by herself, for all you care. She doesnít deserve your attention.

Honestly, I want to slap her. Hard.